For You - who reached this point
because...
in spite of...
Or against all odds...
You're probably not looking for a one-size-fits-all box.
Many women who've had a difficult relationship with their mother think "my story is not that bad as her's (whomever 'she' is)", others feel like they've been around familiar issues stemming from that relationship and
and just like that they keep on carrying wounds that could actually heal, and reveal a whole new reality that wasn't possible before.
Healing the mother wound is a tailored journey, that belongs to your story -
to your needs,
your dreams,
your deepest heart wishes,
to new wholeness beckoning to be birthed.
Click below on any of the scenario thta strike a chord:
First step
Perhaps you're not even sure this whole mother wound thing is for you.
You left the past behind.
Maybe you even travelled to another country to start a new life, away from your mother.
But somehow what you ran away from has caught up with you.
Now you’re wondering: Is it time to turn towards the past and unpack it without feeling overwhelmed?
Maybe your relationship with you mother has been your secret - just a few close ones know what 's going on inside you. You're afraid it'll be a burden. And with all their good intentions and care, they can't really give you the deep release you're looking for.
Making the first step might feel like a big leap of faith
& You don't have to do it alone
You've tried a few things...
And it's not that it didn't help, but you're still wondering.... Is it possible to dance around familiar issues over and again?
You’ve given this a shot. Psychiatry, therapy, meditation, women’s groups, shamanic journeys, among other things.
At the end of the day, you were not fully understood or given the tools to really make a difference.
Perhaps you were told to just learn to accept or forgive. This didn't sit well with you! It just brought up more frustration or shame.
It might feel tender to open up again or trust yet another therapist.
And still, something within you feels that there's more. You haven’t given up.
All your previous explorations showed you that you've got that beating heart for living free from shame or rage, for finding the boost your professional aspirations need and for letting go any hanging baggage that your heart knows you don't need.
So when you're ready to give something new a shot
You should know - this healing work will be like nothing else
Been journeying for a while...
This is not new to you. You've checked the boxes of understanding, talking and ruminating.... And you're ripe for the deep dive.
By now you're got a good sense of your habits, can teach therapists all about the sticky shame and perhaps you are in a helping profession as a psychotherapist, social worker, life coach or a yoga teacher, and you've got all the knowledge bases covered.
Every bit of your journey gave you something but you've reached a point where you want to go deeper and be helped in a way that allows you to fully shed the residue of familiar living habits and patterns of thoughts.
Perhaps something in your life happened that brought up some old stuff, maybe your mother passed away and you're discovering a new shade of the mother wound you haven't seen before.
Whatever it is, you’re clear on the fact that the right support can get you a long way and you’re up for something that can take you to levels of healing you haven't had before.
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Not in a crave for a "fast-food" style therapy
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Aware that a genuine and honest shift takes commitment and latitude
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Done with just talk therapy and being told what to do or why "this and that happens"
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Excited to discover in collaborative space the answers from within you
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Curious about somatic practices to going beyond familiar limiting beliefs
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Feeling ready to
If you’re still not entirely clear on what the mother wound is, here are some more things to consider:
The mother wound is a limitation imposed on our sense of self
because of inherited limiting beliefs and patterns from our relationship with our mother,
situated in a male-dominated world.
In this setting a consistent lack of support, guidance or protections aligned with our true nature
we learnt how to give away our agency and step away from our wholeness.
Healing of the mother wound is about learning how to step back into our agency and wholeness
to become Un-limited
If any of the following have featured in your relationship with your mother:
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Sickness, suicidal tendencies, trauma, mental illness or addiction
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Distance, lack of affection, unpredictability, criticism or dismissal of your gifts and personality
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The claim to be your best friend or dependent on you, competitiveness, or being silent when you needed her to take a stand for your protection
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Physical, emotional, spiritual or energetic absence
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An unexplained sense that you're responsible for the well-being of your mother
Then, the chances are that the mother wound is a part of your life
Some of the most common struggles of the mother wound are:
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Prioritising your needs and dreams
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Seeing your experiences, knowledge, capacities as valid and valuable
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Shame or guilt
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Feeling alone or frequently misunderstood
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Not really settled in a sense of belonging
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Expressing what you feel, what you think, what you mean
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Trusting yourself or others
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Believing that you need to do everything by yourself or always be the strong one
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Pleasing or fearing abandonment if you show your vulnerability
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Finding it hard to receive, to rest, to lean into ease
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Setting healthy boundaries
Your story has a powerful
shift coming
Click below to get a sense of how this would look like
"I was overburdened and exhausted from meeting different demands that others (e.g. my children, my job, and my mother), and especially I made on myself.
Right from our first session, Shelly was able to guide my attention to my needs, unanswered feelings and vulnerabilities. She has incredible wisdom and intuition to find phrases, metaphors and images for unspoken beliefs and desires.
At first, I wanted to learn how to not feel the unpleasant feelings but now I know the right question is ‘how can I process them?’. I’ve gained a lot of tools.
If there will be another family crisis I know how to deal with it, and I have the resources to have an inner conversation with myself. I am deeply thankful for Shelly for this truly formative journey!"
E.K., Switzerland
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